I’m the creator of Empokoro and Building Blocks to Co-Regulation™, where I help parents understand emotions, nervous-system regulation, and co-regulation so they can move through challenging moments with more calm, connection, and confidence.

Learning to look beneath behaviour has changed the way I understand challenging moments with children. Instead of asking, “How do I get this behaviour to stop?”, we can become curious about what might be happening underneath.

You don't need to have the answer. Your job is to get curious, gather clues, and experiment with what might help.

Becoming a Regulation Detective has completely changed how I respond to my children. It's allowed me to:

• See challenging behaviour as communication and gather clues about what my child may need

• Recognize factors that can make regulation harder, such as transitions, sensory overload, fatigue, big emotions, or skill gaps

• Respond with greater understanding instead of automatically reacting to the behaviour

... and so much more!

I'm excited for this simple tool to help you start looking at challenging moments through a different lens.